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Your Kids Don’t Want It All- Really!

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The garages and basements of the sandwich generation overflow with both their parents’ belongings and their children’s’ leftovers. It is an overwhelming task to sort through when deciding what to sell, keep, pass on, donate, and throw away. Especially if you, the generation who inherited it all, are also thinking about resizing your home and making a move.

Planning ahead before parents move into senior living or pass on gives everyone a little more peace of mind. It not only makes dealing with the estate and selling the house easier, it can also help reduce family tensions. As a Realtor helping seniors move, and as one who just lost a parent, I feel qualified to speak about planning ahead. I’ve had clients who want to move but lament that it might take them years to clear out the garage and basement of the belongings of their family’s’ past generations. Don’t put that burden on your children.

Go through your home with your children and grandchildren. Make a list of who wants or gets each piece of jewelry, art, and furniture. If there are collections that might be valuable, get them appraised and decide what to keep or sell. Also any valuable property might need to be factored into an estate plan. Likewise, if items are of sentimental value, they should also be listed. All items listed should be kept with a will so there is no question of what has been decided.

Don’t guilt your children into holding onto items that have little or no economic or sentimental value to them. Also, work together to get rid of the many items that haven’t been used for several years or are simply worn out. Long before moving into senior living start decluttering and simplifying your life. Planning ahead and preparing your home for moving or your death, reduces the stress for all; especially if the home needs to be sold to pay for the next step.

Some resources that might be useful include; senior move specialists, churches, A Place for Mom, and estate sales professionals. Dealing with the loss of a parent is hard enough but to be burdened with all of their belongings often completely overwhelms the family. As a Realtor, I help my clients to strategically simplify the process and recommend resources. If you are looking to move your parents or yourself, please contact me and I will help make it as smooth as possible.

 

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Summertime Obsessions Forge Relationships

 

I have a summer obsession, well to be honest a few summer obsessions. The great thing about these obsessions is that they really help to forge new relationships, especially since we are relatively new to the area. As you can see, my biggest summer obsession is probably creating a beautiful garden. Wherever we have lived, we spent years toiling in the yard cultivating beautiful gardens. Not only do we love them, we get visitors coming to check them out. In one of our previous neighborhoods’, we had people walk up the driveway to sniff and admire the flowers. In our new neighborhood, we have people visiting the backyard to admire the gardens. Cultivating a garden helps to cultivate relationships. We give tours, talk about each others garden joys and woes, and share perennials.

Of course once you establish a garden, you attract other visitors. Now that several of us have gardens, we have also bonded over attracting the Baltimore Orioles, hummingbirds, finches, and butterflies, and unfortunately the occasional rabbit. One obsession leads to another. I love working in my sunroom so I can enjoy the beauty of my garden and catch a glimpse of the birds and butterflies.

My third obsession that helps me to meet new neighbors is walking my furry friend. Who doesn’t want to stop and pet this adorable cavachon. We have children ask to pet him, adults stop to talk about how cute he is, and our “adopted granchildren” ask to run with him. Of course we meet other dogs and get to know their owners.

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Moving to a new city and neighborhood can be very difficult. It is even harder when you don’t have young children that help pave the way to new introductions. You need to find a way to meet and get to know your neighbors. Fortunately, my summer obsessions help do just that.

As a Realtor, I help my Buyers find ways to get to know their new area and neighbors. Let me know if I can help you.

Hope you also take pleasure in some of our pictures.

Patio Garden 2018

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Help is Here- You Only Need To Ask

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Full disclosure- Welcome Home to the Fox Valley is mostly a Real Estate blog but it is also about all things Fox Valley. I not only sell real estate, but I sell our community and neighborhoods. Welcome Home to the Fox Valley focuses on why we should chose to live in an area that features frigid winters and beautiful, short summers.

Raising children is the most important and hardest job  you will ever have in your life. I often see posts on Facebook from Mom’s experiencing difficult times. Their little ones are driving them crazy, they need a break, and they are either single or their significant other is out of town or working several jobs. While commiserating on Facebook with other Mom’s allows venting, there is free help right in our community.  B.A.B.E.S, Inc. offers free respite care and counseling for young parents up to the age of 27 in order to help prevent child abuse before it happens.

The mission of  B.A.B.E.S., Inc. is committed to the prevention of child abuse and neglect by providing safe no-cost respite care, educational support and services, and counseling to young families. Many young parents lack support from family because of our mobile society, or their families’ are just too busy to help. Asking for help doesn’t make you a lesser parent. B.A.B.E.S, Inc doesn’t judge who you are or your economic status, they just want to help. For instance, B.AB.E.S., Inc. recently honored a beautiful young military family. Dad was deployed and not only did Mom worry about him, she had the responsibility of single parenting. She knew that she needed help and reached out to B.A.B.E.S, Inc. The family spoke highly of the help and respite care they received. It really made a difference in their lives.

Over the last year, I helped plan and execute B.A.E.B.E.S, Inc, biggest fundraiser of the year, HAT’S OFF to BABES 2018, Lip Sync Challenge 3.0 which took place last week. We had a great turnout and 5 fabulous teams helping to raise money through their Lip Sync teams. I encourage you to get involved, either with a team for next year, volunteering, or as a parent who needs some time away from their little ones.

Often times, parents don’t know where to go or how to ask for help. We are so blessed to have a non profit free organization such as B.A.B.E.S, Inc. in our community. Please don’t be afraid to ask for help.